Authentic Relating is a combination of practices developed to bring more connection to oneself, more connection to the other, and thus more relationship to the wider group of relationships.
I learned of authentic relating via the “Authentic Man Project” (AMP) in San Francisco in search of better relationships around 2012, found deepening of it in Authentic World/Integral Center in Boulder around 2013, and founded Authentic Europe to bring this to Europe around 2013, closed that down in 2017.
I am still using the AMP model of first Presence, then Appreciation, then Integrity, and from that Wholeness and Play, to track my state and alignment, especially in relationships.
I am still using many of the practices (including Notice, Imagine, Feel) in personal and professional relationships with great benefit for all involved.
References
Although I’m still quite connected in the domain, I am no longer teaching or organising events in this space. I highly advise you to look at the offerings over at Authentic Revolution by my dear friend Sara Ness. For business applications, look at Meta Relating by my dear friend Porch.
That said, here are some writings I still have on this website:
- Intro to Circling handout: The handout we gave participants of our 1-day introduction course to Circling: the agreements, core practices of Circling (in games format) and overview of Circling. It contains the 20% one needs to learn how to be an 80% good Circling participant in 1 day.
- Authentic Relating agreements: Useful set of agreements for any kind of workshop, explicitly honed over many very intensive workshops (all leaders of workshops honed these, including spending 3 days diving really deep into the nuances of the order, wording and even way of being while saying these). These make good anti-culty-cult rules.
- Cult or not: A fun yes/no game showing why this is (not) a cult, in the “culty cult” way (as Jamie Wheal likes to say).
- And some of the authentic relating practices/games such as Notice, Imagine, Feel: speaking your own truth, although you are better of going to the Authentic Revolution Games Manual.